TODAY Show Features Hal Spielman, Author of 'Suddenly Solo'

This morning's TODAY Show featured senior relationship expert, Hal Spielman, 86, author of Suddenly Solo, A Lifestyle Road Map for the Mature Widowed or Divorced Man. The informative, frank and funny book, co-authored with Marc Silbert,is based upon comprehensive interviews and surveys of 1600 widowed or divorced men and women, age 55 and over. Spielman conducted the studies after his wife of 32 years died, as he soughtguidance on how tolive and love again after loss. The book, filled with myth-busting statistics, humorous vignettes and sound advice, is available on Amazon.com and www.suddenlysolo.org.

"The over 55 demographic is exploding andproviding them with the coping mechanisms to survive loss/separation and get back toleadinghappy, social livesagain is vital to their well-being," said Spielman. "As a mature man, I could not find any information to help me, so I went about creating my own guide."

Spielman, the founder of the marketing research firm, McCollum Spielman Worldwide, used his business expertise to gather unprecedentedinsights into the mature man's experiencescoping with loss,rebuildinga daily routine, relearninghowto socialize as a solo, datingdilemmas,new sex partners, adult children's reactionsto new relationships and more.

A few of Spielman's insights:

• Know the5/3 rule.Men consider having sex on the third date; women notuntil at least the fifth. Give her time.
• Give it a chance.87% of women and89% of men believe "chemistry" can develop over time.
• But always be prepared. Condoms and a discreet overnight bag are vital.
• Keep a dating dossier if you play the field, which divorcees do more than widowers. Keep names, dates and personal talking points listed. We are getting older!

While the book is writtenfor maturemen,it has gained a devoted female followingbecauseof the often surprisingstatistics that reveal what men really desire in a partner. A man's need for shared experiences, what they look for in awoman's appearance, and what role sex plays in their relationships are all topics that have stirred considerable internet chatter.

For Spielman, his research has become an invaluable tool for boomers and seniors nationwide, who are learning from his book and his ASK HAL advice column on his website, www.suddenlysolo.org.

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