Jim Parsons has confirmed to the New York Times today that he is gay. ""The Normal Heart resonated with him on a few levels: Mr. Parsons is gay and in a 10-year relationship, and working with an ensemble again onstage was like nourishment," he wrote.
"While The National Enquirer "outed" Parsons in 2010 with news of a supposed engagement to partner Todd Spiewak, this is Parsons' first public acknowledgement of his sexuality."
Jillian Michaels basically came out today, too. She's been vague and has admitted that she has dated men and women in the past, but never confirmed anything presently. She said she likes to keep private things private. She's recently been chronicling her adoption of a little girl from Haiti. Today she announced that she has not only brought her daughter home, but that her partner, Heidi, has given birth to a beautiful son. Go Jill.
I love how "I like to keep my personal life personal", "My sexual orientation is no one's business", etc. etc. all just mean, "Yes, I'm gay/lesbian, but you're not supposed to know."
The thing is, if more people said that and the people at large took that for an answer, the world would be a better place. I look forward to a day when people don't assume you wear your sexual orientation like a name tag. "Hello. My name is LESBIAN." I can list the top 20 adjectives about myself and lesbian/bisexual/into women wouldn't be up there.
My wife and I don't consider ourselves lesbians. We hate labels. We are two women who found our soul mate. Gender was irrelevant. Sure, technically, I am bisexual, but I am 100% committed, till death do us part to a woman. People think that means I should fly the rainbow flag and consider myself part of the "gay community." I love the community and am forever grateful for the solace I found in clubs, bookstores, gay-owned restaurants and coffee shops when I felt so incredibly alone. I fight the fight and stand up for the rights of all people who are treated wrong, especially those who are "gay". I just look forward to the day when it just won't matter. It doesn't really matter here. That's one of the reasons I have never been happier. I think people have to right to come out or not come out. Unless you have denied it and are homophobic or a member of a homophobic organization. Then the gloves come off.
Hell, I took a Xanax. I shouldn't post after doing so. lol
Someday all we'll need to do is put on a Target t-shirt with a silk screened picture of sunglasses with rainbow lenses and then we will truly know, it's gotten better.
I get what you're saying, Jersey, but I think one of the problems with that mindset (more broadly, not for you specifically, because clearly you and your wife know what works best for you) is that unless we get to a point where straight people are also vociferously claiming that their sexuality is private and no one's business, it just doesn't really work, except to again reinforce the notion that saying "My private life is my private life" is just a coded way of saying "I'm gay but can't or won't say it out loud."
And I find a lot of times if you don't wear your sexuality like tag, the assumption is that you're straight. Not that I resent being taken for straight, but I'm not straight, so there's no reason for people to carry that false assumption about me (exceptions owing to safety, etc, excluded, but I'd like to get to a point where I don't have to worry about my safety because I choose to live my life as relatively openly gay.)
Well, you know, there's also the argument that if we don't point out that we are, in fact, different, then it's a lot easier for people to act as if we DO have the same rights they do. I don't want it to be a big deal, but until there is equality, it IS a big deal. It's a conundrum. Again, it's easier here.
^ If that were to happen, he will probably wait till sometime after 'Mockingjay Part II' is released or when all of the 'Hunger Games' hype has died down. Because he wouldn't want to disappoint young girls who have crushes on him.
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Posted: 5/23/12 at 02:36pm